There I was quickly approaching my third trimester & weeks away from giving birth for the first time. Since deciding to have a non-medicated birth, I was feeling increasingly anxious & desperately needed a little word of encouragement. You know the kind of pep talk you see in a Hollywood boxing movie right before the fighter is about to throw in the towel, but thanks to his entourage & coach, manages to pull out a win.
So what did I do? I did what any first time mom would do… I called mom! Surely she’d have some magical words to lift my spirits and ease my ever growing anxiety. After all- she had given birth to all 5 of us through non-medicated labors.
So why hadn’t I already mentioned to her my desire to have a non-medicated birth? Perhaps subconsciously, I knew my mom who frequently lacked that sensitivity chip most moms have, would once again deliver a less than a heart-warming response.
I decided to ignore my gut & all prior warnings and call anyway!
I rang her phone, got passed our usual small talk & told her about my plans. Did she break all my preconceived notions & prove me wrong? Did she draw on her own experience & give me some warm words of wisdom? Not exactly! I believe her exact words were, “Are you sure YOU can do that”? So much for gaining confidence in this phone call! Not only was her response careless, but it was saturated with uncertainty & doubt in my ability.
Were my mom’s words malicious? Absolutely not! My mom is one of the most incredible moms & loving women I know. Her words were simply a byproduct of the widespread self doubt instilled in women today. Nonetheless, they did nothing to ease my worries! In fact, if I hadn’t been so determined to do things my way, they probably would have made me second guess my sanity & intentions. Luckily, I inherited my mom’s brutal stubbornness as well.
My mom wasn’t alone in the scrutiny I received when sharing my plans to have a non-medicated birth. One of my colleagues thought nothing of telling me one day in the office that after sharing my plans with her husband, he swiftly replied, “why on earth would any woman want to do that”?
Was I surrounded by a particularly callus & unsupportive group of people? No. At least I’d like to think not! What I was experiencing is the deeply ingrained & fundamentally WRONG message we send women today regarding labor- meds are the only way to go & be afraid…. Be very, very AFRAID!
Do I blame women for being afraid of non-medicated births? Not one single bit!
Why shouldn’t they be when every depiction of labor, by modern day society has made one thing crystal clear- A non-medicated birth is a thing of the past- as it should be! It’s simply too painful & not worth the trouble.
But wait a minute….. What if what we’ve been taught to believe is simply not the whole truth? What if the benefits of giving birth naturally, with no interventions & no medication, are extraordinary? And what if the message we start sending women is the secret I’m about to share with you….. Psssh, come in close because this one is going to test EVERYTHING you’ve been programmed to believe…
YOU CAN TOTALLY DO THIS! YES- YOU MAMA!
If I can, trust me- YOU CAN TOO! In fact, most women (with the exception of those experiencing a medical emergency/complication) CAN ABSOLUTELY EMBRACE, ACHIEVE & BENEFIT FROM A NON-MEDICATED BIRTH! You’re one BAD-ASS mama and you didn’t even know it!
Now that you’ve heard my story, I want you to learn what YOU’VE got to gain from having a non-medicated birth. Read my post, https://modernmommin.com/2019/08/23/natural-birth-6-amazing-benefits-of-having-a-non-medicated-birth/